Dating without intimacy
You should find one of two things as you have this these conversations regarding goals and anticipated ministries; there should either be a good deal of commonality between your goals and visions, or there should be significant flexibility on the part of the woman (who would one day be called to submit to her husband's headship with regard to career, direction of the family, etc.).Things will likely be very difficult down the road if one of you feels strongly called to a particular life or ministry that the other would absolutely dread.Obviously, I've talked about this stage as being more emotionally intimate than the early days of a relationship, and I realize that in this day and age, many people feel that they must know the person they marry better than any other human being on the planet they marry him or her.I generally think that is a wrong assumption and that such an approach leads to a lot of emotional "marriages" outside of actual marriage that are not biblical or healthy.Even at this stage in the relationship, there is still no reason or need for the two of you to be alone in one of your apartments together.For the sake of purity, be very careful about how and where you spend time together.
in greater detail if it looks like things could be headed toward marriage, but caution is always in order as you get more deeply involved.You can share testimonies, talk more deeply about who you are, goals, hopes for your life's ministry (should the Lord tarry and give you many more years).As I've mentioned before, you should also discuss things like important theological issues and where you're comfortable going to church — to make sure the two of you are basically on the same page.Let's look at how this stage might play out by considering some of the same issues we looked at for the early stage.Clarity and intentions should be established when things move from "testing the waters" to "yeah, the water's fine." Don't assume that because you agreed to start dating or courting (presumably with the intention to determine whether marriage was the right thing) you (or your partner) will "just know" when things begin to progress. Maybe, but being deliberate and clear about where the relationship is need not suck all the fun, spontaneity and feeling out of the whole affair.